Tuesday, 13 October 2015

Leadership or "Leagnorance"?

Bismillah. In the name of Allah The Most Loving, The Most Merciful. Its been a long time since i wrote my last writing. So pardon me if i get a little 'awky' over here. haha. So here's the thing, recently i've drown myself in my own mind and conversing with the inner self. To be truth, the leaders nowadays has been the reason for my situation.. 

Sadly to realize that leaders or leaders-to-be nowadays are not based on leadership, but arrogance and ignorance. (Sebabtu leagnorance. Perkataan sendiri :P ) This is the kind that either look down on people who have nothing or people who have everything that they dont have. They'll end up at either one dilemma. They will not give space to others to step up and reveal their talents. And ive witnessed it myself and this is the sad truth that is happening especially among the muslims. Why this happens? You know why? Because they lead to get a title but not for the sake of Allah.

Back to basic.

Yes. That's the only thing we have to do. We go back to basic. Prophet Muhammad is the best leader. He is the perfect example. He is our home, refer to him on how to be a leader. Speaking in front of the public doesnt give you the right to oppress people's talents and ideas. or to be rude to anyone's weaknesses. For the record, to this kind of leaders, you may achieve all that you want, but you missed one point here. Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) didnt teach us to become leaders merely. But he teaches morality. He came to teach morality. Because you know why? Only with morality, you can become a leader. Only with the truest and purest intention for Allah, you will lead in the right way. Honestly you dont have to chase leadership. Just by having a good heart and intention, leadership will chase you. Allah will spread your heart to world wallahi. If you do it for Him genuinely. 

I give you one perfect example for this case. During the time of Prophet (s.a.w), at one period the call of prayers for muslims and the jews was the same which was the sound of bell. So this had become an issue because it created confusion for them. Which is for muslims and which is for the jews? So Prophet s.a.w thought they need to change the call of prayers. And so one sahabat came to him and said 'O Prophet, ive dreamt about a poem for the call of prayers'. When Prophet s.a.w heard it, he agreed and make it as our official call of prayers. Up until now. Whats the wisdom behind this story? Prophet s.a.w accepted the opinion of others and in fact apply it. But he is the leaderrrr. Leader of mankinddd. Why? You know why? Because he didnt led for himself, for a title. He leads for Allah. So whatever that is good for the ummah he accepted it. This is how we should lead. May Allah reset our hearts and polish it as white as it can be. I hope my plain words here will be beneficial for us. :) Assalamu'alaykum. p/s i do not point this out to any relatives,friends, or family. i am saying this as a member of community (and its a hobby kinda thingy :3 )

Saturday, 24 January 2015

Islamic point of view and intellectual point of view

Knowledge seekers usually need reliable point of view or source to improve their particular prospect of course. Especially the students who are studying in  western countries. But i need to emphasize more on muslim students who are relying on point of views. We really need to know on how to differentiate and implement the views that we seek. I know that intelligent people are usually the source of view that most of us convince with. I am referring the 'intelligent people' as Phd holder, master holder who mostly become educators. Meaning to say, we indirectly convince to the particular point of view based on their level of education, am i right? Or the attributes that they have made. Surprisingly, there are many intelligent people, in western region especially, professors doctors, give a lot of attributes and leading to the stairs of success , even at the peak of success, but when it comes to islamic point of view, these intellectual people would not give a room for an agreement. Any islamic ideas. And that is the issue that muslim students should be bother about. Day by day, because of what has been implemented in education nowadays, the muslim students tend to abandon the islamic point of view. So.. Where are we leading our religion?

   What i am trying to say to the muslim youngsters including myself, we are the future of Islam, we are the warriors of Islam. Know that Islam is the ONLY pride you have. Neither your career or wealth. Yes you should care about Islam. No you should not chase the worldly material excessively until it corrupts your heart. Dont be selfish upon your Lord. Be ashamed to your Lord. Be ashamed to Prophet s.a.w. Know that if you think wealth and career is your pride, your pure soul and mind that Allah created for you have been westernized. Knowledge of Islam is beyond intellectual than you have ever known. It is not a human's intellectual but it is God's intellectual, that cannot be competed with any creatures. 
 Islam is more than phd or master. I am here not to say that you should not refer to the western perspective. But do not abandon the islamic point of views.

 You and I are the carrier of ilm of Islam. If you think that Islam is merely about spirituality , you are wrong. Islam is more than spirituality, it encompasses everything that relates to what we are doing now. As a muslim, it is such a huge waste and loss for us if we do not ponder and grasp the magnificent islamic scope of knowledge. I mean, look at our ancient scholars back then. Even now. Such brave soldiers with full of knowledge,  noble hearts and great mind set. Islam is a privilage for us. It is our fate to be superior than others. But the kind of superior that comes with humility and humbleness. The superiority that makes the world a better place. Do not let common globalization system defeat our soul and mind or defeat the golden islamic knowledge and point of view. It is our legacy to continue the glory of our beautiful religion.

Our future depends on Islam and the future of Islam depends on us.

Monday, 8 December 2014

Habib Ali - Kitab Mukhtasar (ringkasan) Sahih Bukhari & Minjahul 'Abidin (Imam Ghazali)

- Tegur orang tua dengan lemah lembut seperti kisah Saidina Hasan dan Saidina Husin

- Adab Nabi s.a.w apabila memberi makanan atau minuman, baginda s.a.w akan mula memberi kepada orang yg duduk di kanan. Tapi disebabkan ketika itu  belah kiri Rasulullah s.a.w ialah lebih tua (Saidina Abu Bakr) , maka baginda mintak izin orang di kanan iaitu Abdullah ibn Abbas untuk bagi orang di kiri. Padahal Abdullah ibn Abbas hanyalah budak kecil ketika itu. Ketika Rasulullah s.a.w wafat Abbas hanya 13 tahun. Apatah lagi ketika peristiwa ini mesti lagi kecil. Tapi Nabi s.a.w pentingkan adab walaupun dgn budak kecil untuk meminta izin daripada 'hak' Abdullah ibn Abbas tadi. (ADAB!)

- Lafaz 'bismillahirrahmanirrahim' hanya dimulai oleh Nabi Muhammad s.a.w, sebelum kehadiran baginda sebutannya lain 'bismiqallahumma'. Ada satu ketika seorang bernama Attas duduk bersama Rasulullah s.a.w, ketika itu Rasulullah minum dan menyebut 'bismillahirrahmanirrahim'. Attas bertanya 'Apa yang kau sebutkan? Aku tak pernah dengar perkataan itu'. Nabi tanya ' Kau dari mana?' Attas jawab dari Ninawa-Iraq. Nabi kata 'Oh, itu tempat abang aku Nabi Yunus. Dia seorang Nabi, begitu juga aku seorang Nabi sepertinya'. Attas terus masuk Islam apabila mengetahui kenabian Rasulullah s.a.w, hanya disebabkan Nabi sebut perkataan 'bismilliahirrahmanirrahim'.

- Nabi umpamakan orang yang beriman itu seperti pokok kurma dimana segala sisi dari pokok kurma mempunyai manfaat. Dari atas sampai akarnya. Orang beriman memberi manfaat kepada orang lain. Tangannya bagi manfaat, kakinya bagi manfaat, mulutnya bagi manfaat, segala yang ada pd orang beriman bagi manfaat pada orang lain. Bukan ibadah semata-mata. Orang beriman ialah dimana orang lain selamat dari bahaya.

- Apa ertinya kita beragama Islam tapi berhati kotor. Riak ialah perbuatan yang tidak ikhlas.

- Imam Ghazali menceritakan pentingnya amal ibadah batil (dalaman, hati) daripada zahir.

-Amalan batin (hati) tak berkesan sebab  amalan zahir tak selari dengan amalam batin.

- Wujudnya orang yang melakukan ibadah tapi hati busuk. FOCUS BERSIHKAN HATI PASTI AMALAN ZAHIR AKAN TERJAGA.

- Ada satu hari pada zaman Nabi, di Masjid ada seorang yang sedang ambil wudhu dan ketika dia jalan masuk ke masjid Nabi Muhammad s.a.w nampak kesan tampar syaitan di mukanya. Ketika dia masuk ke masjid Nabi tanya kepadanya 'ketika kau masuk ke masjid ini adakah kau berckp dalam hati yg kau lebih bagus dari orang-orang di sini termasuk aku?' Orang itu mengaku.

- BERATKAN DAN FOCUSKAN AMALAN IBADAH BATIN seperti sabar, tawakkal, sangka baik pada orang, tak mengumpat, elak dengki. JANGAN KOTORKAN HATI.

- Kalau kau betul-betul tawakkal  pada Allah, Allah akan beri rezeki pada kamu sepertimana kau lihat burung keluar dari rumah tangan kosong dan pulang ke rumah dengan rezeki kerana burung pun tawakkal pada Allah. (Cari duit untuk hidup, bukan hidup untuk cari duit)

-Tumpukan tujuan untuk Allah. Tawakkal pada Allah tapi jangan tinggalkan sebab. (bukan maksudnya tak perlu kerja. Lebihkan Allah. Tujuan untuk Allah)

-Virus-virus yang merosakkan hati ialah riak, sombong, dengki, sangka buruk, cakap buruk.

- tiada ilmu yang lagi bagus, lagi konkrit daripada ilmu Allah dan Rasul.

 :) Salam 'alaykum

Tuesday, 17 June 2014

A simple prayer yet most precious in the sight of Allah?

    Assalamualaikum, some sense of uneasy in me finally urge me to write this post and share it with you guys. It is a remarkable story during the time of sahabah that ive read long time ago and completely purify the way i think since then. I shall begin the story that will give massive impact to you.

   One day, there was a pious man that never left the masjeed that he went for meditations. He became well known in the town because of his obedience and piety to Allah. He never stop worship Allah, he would read Quran, zkir and even voluntary prayers. One night, he had a dream that there was a man that was more pious than him. He woke up feeling shocked and confused. Then he continue started his day doing his regular basis. When he walked along the street, he recognised the face of a man in a stall that was attending his customer. He realized that its the man in his dream. The pious man waited at a place and watched the man and wondering 'why is he more pious than me?'.

     Eventually, when he was about to leave, the man called upon him and asked 'what are you looking for?' Then the pious man started revealed the dream that he had. After the man heard about it, he asked the pious man to do one thing before he proceed his response. He asked the pious man to bring two heavy loads with his both hands that each hand carried each load and asked him to walk along the street until the end of it and walk back forth to the stall. The pious man did as he said and finally made it with all sweaty and tired. The man asked him 'Do you remember Allah when you carry the loads with you?' The pious man said 'No, i was focusing on the loads that i carry because its too heavy.' Then the man said 'That is the difference between you and me. I remember Allah in everything that i do. I remember Allah when im dealing with my customers, when i do buying and selling, when im walking and so on.'

    And thats how the story goes. The moral values that i get from this story is that 1) Never judge the deeds of others! Eventhough that you do a lot of obedience to Allah, you perform the voluntary prayers after fardhu prayers, then you read Quran, you do supplications and when you see the one besides you start walking away after complete his/her salah, you start to judge and think you are better than him. Dont! Maybe he does the other deeds at home and maybe he just like the man in the story. I am not saying that you should perform the obligations only and reduce your deeds. We still need those deeds to feed our souls. Im saying that you should keep doing it while not look down on anyone. Never judge.  2) The man is more precious to Allah because he do 2 things in one moment. He gain his livelihood but at the same time he never stop remembering Allah and worshiping Allah. He made efforts for both lives.

   May Allah protect us from judging anyone and may Allah elevates our ranks in His sight. Forgive me if i ever throw any sword words to you. may Allah forgive me and recure my weaknesses. Allahumma ameen.

Friday, 23 May 2014

Physical Prayers vs. Heart Prayers

      Prayer is a foundation of a muslim as we all know. No one can explain the benefits of performing salah until one experience it by himself. Even explaining won't be enough. But to taste the sweetness of salah, let first ask to ourselves.. Is it you who performing salah or is it your heart performing salah. Adakah diri kamu mendirikan solat, atau pun hatimu mendirikan solat? This makes huge difference upon its meaning and effect. Curiosity overcomes me. Kenapa ada orang mendirikan solat tapi kelakuannya sama seperti orang yang tak solat? It seems that the way he/she prays is flawless and smoothly. Just like others' prayers. Sujood, ruku', al-fatihah, everything is the same.. But why? Why the prayers are the same but the charatacters turns out differently from everyone..

     Oh.. Apparently its the condition of the heart.. You may perform the salah but your heart may not perform it. Alhamdulillah Allah gave me a lil close up about the heart when i was driving back home and listening to ikim.fm. I was totally inspired by the talk given by a sheikh since i've never drown myself to the knowledge of heart in such detailed info. He says that 'one heart cant love two things in it. If a heart loves the dunya, it will love the dunya in a whole. And if the heart loves the akhirah , it will attach to it wholely." The pure heart is genuinely loves the good things. Every heart starts from the pure heart. And that is the condition when the heart is healthy. But if the heart starts to love bad things, it is when the heart is corrupted by lust. And when you let the heart entered by lust, this involve the third party that is shaytan which he'll get the key to your door of heart and will finally conquer it. When the heart loves to do something bad, that is when you have a disease of a heart. Means the heart is sick spiritually.

     Before i go deep to it, let me enlighten you that performing salah is not for Allah. But its for yourself. Solat tu untuk kita sendiri. Allah tak pernah rugi apa-apa. Tapi kita yang rugi. Amazingly the concept of Islam can never be understood by reasoning or logic. But it must be understood by heart that is iman(believe). One of the concept is that once you strive for akhirah, the dunya will chase you. And when you strive for Allah (including prayers) , you will get the benefits and rewards. It is for you. So in terminology, it simply means, "what you do for Allah, is actually what you do for yourself". And trust me, you can NEVER believe it until you do it yourself. I remember a video that i went through and my ears automatically captured and my heart absorbed these words that said "I dont want you for Myself, But I want you for yourself" and i imagined that Allah was talking to me, apparently in reality it is absolutely affirmative.

      Everyone prays but not everyone can tastes the sweetness of prayers. Not when you dont do it right. There are people who are physically doing salah for akhirah but their hearts are actually in dunya while performing it. And honestly, what makes you think that your salah is going to be accepted by Allah when the real thing that Allah is looking for is sincerity? When you let your heart do it sincerely for akhirah, your characters will switch along and bond with the characters of the people of akhirah. Kelakuan kita akan sama seperti kelakuan orang-orang yang hatinya untuk akhirat iaitu orang mukmin. You start to watch your words, you start to protect you ears and eyes, you start to think and act differently, you start to change the way you dress. It is an amazing journey wallahi! :)  To get the sweetness of prayers, you have to love (by heart) to pray. To love to pray, you have to know who ask you to pray. And to love the One who ask you to pray, you have to know who is The One? Know who is Allah in order for you to love Him. Indulge yourself with everything that bond you to Him. Just like you have to taste the food for you to love the food. You cant love the food without tasting it. So does you cant love Allah without knowing Him.

    Some tips from me to keep me adhere the performance of salah, and honestly you dont have to seek it by far or external circumstances. Because it is with you. Just lift your both hands, look at them and say 'THESE ARE NOT MINE.' Simple as that. Your body is not yours. Your heart that you can cherish your love to someone is not yours. Your brain that you can think how to make money is even not yours. But it is absolutely owned by Allah. So we have to give gratitude to Him. So change ourselves, instead of performing salah because of obligations, perform it to show gratitude to Allah :) May Allah grant us a solid sincerity to Him. Ameen, Allahumma ameen! :) - lots of love

Tuesday, 29 April 2014

Muhammad, The Complete Man.

Assalamualaikum, may all of us always be under the protection of Allah s.w.t.

 On 27th April 2014, i attended a heroes conference in IIUM that brought up a talk about Muhammad s.a.w, The Complete Man. It was held for the whole day from 9.am to 10 p.m. And wallahi i've never felt so much content as i felt on that day. Everything about Prophet Muhammad s.a.w really enlightened me. I had the chance to know every detail about Prophet Muhammad s.a.w in a day! And what i can learn is that we really need to know everything about our prophet so that we realize that attitude and sincerity are our platform in life. If you want to know how noble is the status of Islam, study about our Prophet, study the vision of sahabah. study the wife of the prophet. They really potray the value of humanity.

Lets ponder upon the wisdom words from the conference.

By Sheikh Waleed Abdul Hakeem : House of the Prophet.

-   You should live with postive people, so that you will be positive.
-   People will attract to you because of your quality! Be truthful. In order to be truthful to people, you have to be truthful to yourself and your personality will change!
-  Ibn Abbas said whenever i came across an ayah in the Quran that says ' O you who believe', I know Allah is talking to me something personal.
-   Masjid Al-Aqsa is the thirds sacret mosque in Islam.

By Sheikh Tariq Appleby : The Women behind Prophet Muhammad s.a.w

-    The women (Khadijah, Fatimah etc. ) around Prophet s.a.w support Prophet s.a.w
-    Allah will never humiliate you when you protect the affairs of your family.

-   Prophet s.a.w always remember Khadijah even when she was gone as he s.a.w said something about Khadijah to Ayesha and Ayesha ask him s.a.w 'why do you always talk about Khadijah?' and Prophet s.a.w said. 'Khadija is the one who support me when everyone rejects me'.

-   Khadijah is the person who support Prophet s.a.w also in financial. It is for the sake of Islam. The support that Khadijah r.a gave is to ease the da'wah of Prophet s.a.w. (Subhanallah what an amazing value within a woman)

-   Make your life like a successful muslimah and business woman as Khadijah. Think. HOW CAN I BE LIKE KHADIJAH?

-   There are reasons why Prophet s.a.w married divorced women and widowed. Because those women really understand men psychologically..

-   Allah says in the Quran ' I do not create mankind except to worship Me' .. This doesn't necessarily about prayers, fasting and all the obligations. Rather it means EVERYTHING that we do should be an act of worship to Allah. Such as spend money for sadaqah.

-    The stories of the Prophet and sahabah and Quran are not just a fairy tale or just a story. These stories are to remind us because that is what we should. We should be the same.

-    Khadijah has the best of world and the best of Akhirah, BE like her!

-    Be the great influence with only look the examples of our masters.

-    There 's no time to complain but take initiative to make it happen!

By Sheikh Shareef El Arbi (USA) : Muhammad and His Struggles

-    Prophet s.a.w said ' What do I have to do with this dunya while I am just a traveler in this dunya'

-    How to make your home as the home of Prophet Muhammad s.a.w?

-   Prophet s.a.w always recite dua and give salam everytime he enters and exits the house.
-   First gate of having success is the relationship between your family.

-   Prophet s.a.w do everything by himself including washing his own clothes and sewing his own shoes. Be like Rasulullah s.a.w! (He is the leader of humanity yet he can do the small things)  Dont wait for someone to do something for you! or dont wait until you need to be asked to do something.

-   Prophet s.a.w never talk bad about any food! Whenever he doesnt like it, he just put it away and not saying anything. He never said 'this food is tasteless, or too spicy'

-   Prophet s.a.w live in a simple way. When he wakes up, then he ask for food to his wife, if there's food, he'll eat. but if there's no food, he will continue fasting without complaining. (Subhanallah! :( )

-   Ayesha r.a had described that there was a time when we dont have food for months. Allahuakbar :(

-  Taking care of the family's entertainment. Try to sacrifice a bit for your family's entertainment. For example your little sister wants to watch cartoons channel in tv. Try to sacrifice a bit.

-     Have common hobbies together in order to be easier to be attached together.

-   Makes time for family talk. Prophet s.a.w is the best listener! He always talks with Ayesha r.a while waiting for adhzan fajr.

- Woman likes to talk about every details. but man likes to talk directly. but Prophet s.a.w really listen to every detail of Ayesha r.a. and he s.a.w showed to Ayesha that he listened the details. (mashaAllah this is sweeet :>)

- Family who worship together, stays together!

-Shaytan will not enter the house that family prays jamaah together! Allahuakbar. *NOTED

- Prophet s.a.w gave everything if a beggar comes until he has nothing else to give!

- 'We were so hungry that we tight a rock on the stomach to push the stomach in as if it was filled.' :(


By Dr. Ataullah Kopanski : Muhammad, The Social Reformer.

- There are american freemason that even praise Prophet Muhammad s.a.w

- Those who insulting Islam exist from the time of Prophet s.a.w

- Prophet s.a.w convey the message of supreme from Allah. DONT BE THE HEART OF COWARD! Stand and speak up for Islam!

- Harun Abdul Kareem said in his spoken words : I invite you with the simple concept! BREAK THE SILENT AND START SPEAK!

By Sheikh Ibrahim Nuhu (Nigeria) : Muhammad, The Teacher.

- Muawiyah said 'yarhamukallah' when someone sniffed during jamaah prayer and the sahabah got angry at him but when they finished the prayer, Muawiyah expected that Prophet would mad at him but rather, Prophet Muhammad s.a.w was not even mad at all but correct him in a very soft manner. He s.a.w correct the faults of people with no curses and no embarrassment '

-  Muawiyah said 'Wallahi, I never see the best teacher rather than Prophet s.a.w'

-  Prophet s.a.w make sure that people understand what he says that he repeats three times.

- Show mercy when you teach. Put yourself in their shoes, only then you can be patient! Be like our Prophet Muhammad s.a.w!

-  Prophet s.a.w looks at the nature of the question.

- Prophet s.a.w divert the question to something more benefit than the answer. for example, there were sahabah asked Prophet s.a.w 'Is the water of the sea can be used as oblution?' Prophet s.a.w answered ' Yes the water can be used as oblution and the dead animals in the sea can be eaten.'

By Sheikh Shareef El Arbi (USA) :  Muhammad and Me

- Have taqwa!

- If you need to love Prophet s.a.w , you really need to know much about him s.a.w.

- If you make sacrifice for Islam, Allah will give His sincerity to you. (No gift can be compared  rather than  the gift of Allah's sincerity) *my favourite :)

Alhamdulillah. This is so far what i get from the conference and I hope this will be beneficial for you and me! and may Allah give us strength to put all the wisdom words into practice. Allahumma ameen! :) We are the best of mankind on this earth and yes we should act like one. Not with arrogant. But with virtue.

Tuesday, 7 January 2014

What will happen to me if i keep forgiving people for the rest of my life?

   So, as days passed by, there was always this one thing that never missed to keep buggin' my mind. Yet still whenever it knocked my head, i can never feel satisfied without knowing the answer to this matter. What i've learnt is that a strong heart is those who are strong to forgive people regardless of depth of the pain that you felt inside. And lucky me that Allah has tested me with this situation which i've experienced it by my own. So, i hold tight to the teachings of Islam which is to forgive ABSOLUTELY anyone that hurt you EVEN you haven't done a single thing to him/her. So everytime this situation reached me, i keep saying to myself  'that's okay, forgive him, forgive her, forgive them..' and so it continues. But until this one point, i honestly tired of forgiving people and buried this pain inside and to see that those people don't have a single clue that im in pain. Its like i've been eaten by the worms bit by bit. I feel smaller and smaller and people keep stepping my head. Its different when people who apologize and who don't. When someone apologize to you for their  mistakes, you'll feel easy on that. But when they dont apologize, and you know you need the strength to forgive them for the sake of Allah and for yourself (serenity), that's when it takes a strong heart to do it. 

   So i started to think is this what Islam about? Forgive people, hold your temper, keep inside you, buried deep down the pain. FOREVER? I even came across to a bigger circle that what if the disbelievers mock the muslims, dishonor us, are we just gonna keep forgiving them? But wallahi everytime this thing come across me, i make du'a to Allah 'please let me understand this thing O Allah, please give me wisdom of all these. You are All-Wise. I believe in You, I believe in Islam.. So teach me, give me understanding..'

   And so as i reached home, i put down my bag and laid down on my bed.. (it rhymes, lol) Checkin' up my smartphone (not deuces :P ) So i opened the Youtube and scrolling down at the news feed. There's one video named 'the stories of three pious people by Mufti Menk', so in random, i clicked on the video. As i keep listening.. i have no idea that it relates to my issue! The story is about one man lookin' at the 3 pious people and he said 'they must be really pious'. So he came to the first pious man who reciting the Quran and he give salam to the man but the man continue reciting.. then what he did, he clapped at the man's face ( i guess Mufti Menk use the word clap because its not as hard as slap) but still the pious man keep revising the Quran. So he said 'this man is really pious'. After then, he went to the second pious man. Again he clapped at the other man's face, then the pious man said to him 'Are your hands okay brother? Is there any pain?' The pious man worried about the hands that clapped him rather than his own face that been clapped. Finally, he went to the third pious man, and same thing happened, he clapped the man. And so, the third man clapped the man's face twice. He was in shocked and said to the pious man ' I thought you were pious'. Then the pious man said 'someone somewhere need to stop you from clapping people's face' ...

    I was like, subhanallah! Allah showed me the answer! Wallahi i had the biggest smile at that moment. lol. In this video, there's also a hadith that said, ' if you dont stop the oppressor from oppressing others, then chaos will overtake the whole community' and Mufti Menk continue saying 'SOMETIMES YOU CAN FORGIVE PEOPLE, BUT IF YOU CONTINUE FORGIVING THEM WHO IS GOING TO STOP THE OPRESSION?' THIS really brainwashed me. I understand that you must forgive. BUT you must also speak out the false that they made. and correct them. In that way you'll not feel smaller but you feel LIGHTER as you clean the dirts and built a garden on this earth for spreading peace. You and i know that its not easy. I myself still need a lot of guts to speak. BUT together, WE CAN! :D In fact, WE MUST, in order to have a better world :) Lets pray that may Allah give us the strength to speak up, enjoin good and forbid evil and have a strong calm heart! Ameen ameen ya Rabbal 'Alamin! 

p/s : this is the video that i'm talking about. enjoy :)